How to know who deserves your energy, affection & attention

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When they actively search out and create opportunities to make you feel safe, seen, supported, and held. 

YOU’VE FOUND YOUR TRIBE.

When you have zero reluctance to reach out in the throes of a morning meltdown, a midday breakthrough, or a midnight epiphany.

YOU'VE FOUND YOUR TRIBE. 

When their presence in your life feels like a gift. 

YOU’VE FOUND YOUR TRIBE.

When your wishes, worries, cares, and concerns are received in warm and deep confidence, sealed in an airtight and waterproof vault.

YOU'VE FOUND YOUR TRIBE.

When your humanity is honoured and witnessed in a space free of assumptions or judgements.

YOU’VE FOUND YOUR TRIBE.

When they're willing to gently nudge you out of those dark and ugly places we all go sometimes with unrelenting kindness, curiosity, and compassion. 

YOU’VE FOUND YOUR TRIBE.

When they won’t stop sending you love-drenched notes of encouragement to stand taller, fuller, and freer.

YOU'VE FOUND YOUR TRIBE.

When they magically appear on your doorstep with wine, soup, and chocolate in the moments that feel messy, muddy, and tough. 

YOU’VE FOUND YOUR TRIBE

When you know with unquestionable certainty that you’re a priority, rather than merely an option.

YOU’VE FOUND YOUR TRIBE.

Keep them close, love them hard, and show up fiercely. 

When your blazing and bright heart is met with cutting indifference.

NOT YOUR TRIBE.

When you allow the softness of your feelings to land and they're echoed back with loud and hollow disregard. 

NOT YOUR TRIBE.

If you have to work to convince them of your value and intrinsic worthiness.

NOT YOUR TRIBE. 

When criticism quickly and easily arrives in the places where only celebration should live, bloom, and flourish.

NOT YOUR TRIBE. 

When they choose to have conversations about you rather than with you. 

NOT YOUR TRIBE.

When they make you the mirror for their insecurities or smallness.  

NOT YOUR TRIBE. 

When goodness and generosity are answered with stark and thoughtless silence.  

NOT YOUR TRIBE. 

When vulnerability and tenderness are greeted with cold insincerity.

NOT YOUR TRIBE.

When you speak your truth and it's received with doubt or disdain.

NOT YOUR TRIBE.

When your unshakeable authenticity, genuine intentions or rock solid integrity are called into question.

NOT YOUR TRIBE.

When your light starts feeling dimmed, dulled, or extinguished.

NOT YOUR TRIBE. NOT YOUR TRIBE. NOT YOUR TRIBE. 

Notice fully, send heaps of grace, and then promptly move on.